Assalam aleikum! My name is Nadia. I hope this finds you in good health and iman inshaAllah. I don’t have any experience in blogging but voluntered to do a guestblog to write about, how I approach the whole ”dressing modestly but yet individual”. My involvement in social media is basically limited to instagram (@nadia.mellouli) where I (almost) daily post things I experience.
You might know the feeling…
You imagine this perfect outfit in your head. But only to find when you start to put it on, you find the pants too tight, so you change them. Your dress too short, so you pick a longer one, and oh your blouse is see-through so you wear something underneath or top it up with a cardigan. As you stare in the mirror memoirs of Darth Vader in Star Wars come to you and look nothing like you had imagined.
Raise your hand if this has been a disturbing issue for you?
This situation used to be more of an everyday encounter, than a once in a while mishap. I would go out of my way to make a certain item work for me, and end up not using it. Maybe from a startingpoint of necessity, I began to experiment with different patterns, lenghts and layering in order to create a style that represented me but still didin’t go against what I believe. I changed a few things in this realization.
- The first thing I did was a realization of what I would wear. I stopped buying things that I knew I wouldn’t wear, meaning to accept that tight jeans and t-shirts just aren’t made for me to wear outdoor and realizing that I am not going to wear very feminine clothes with flower patterns outside either (the latter to big disapointment to my beloved mother). Having a lot of things you are not going to wear only adds confusion.
- Another thing is, no matter how cheap an item is, I stopped buying it unless I would still think it was nice if full-priced. To be honest I never was one to get excited about shopping excessively, just annoyed if I have something I never used. I reason a lot before buying things, hence also the reason why I usually shop alone (because my sister has given up on me: and no one else has the patience to go out with me).
- Thirdly if I don’t use an item within the days it is refundable, I return it to the store. Odds are that I won’t be using it much then. So as you can imagine I don’t have a great amount of items in my closet that I don’t use, so quality is important to me.
I am very concious about what I wish to cover, and the lenght of my skirts, dresses etc, so when I layer my clothes it is always with this in mind and it becomes the ”basis” of every outfit. Basis meaning it covers what I want. When wearing a maxiskirt, I love to put on shirts and top it up with a knit leaving all layers showing. I wear my jacket or oversize coat, sometimes over shoulder.
This fall/winter, being a resident in the colder part of Europe, I have really been enjoying oversized turtleneck knits. When wearing pants I only wear boyfriend jeans or loose fitted pants, I top this with a long shirt/dress to the knee, a shirt and knit, and an oversized coat. I have this tendency to roll up the sleeves of my coat leaving layers of clothes showing.
So to sum it up, I have a standard style, which I always do the same way, and then I create variation by opting for different colours and patterns. By having the same foundation, stylewise, I simplify the process of having to decide what and how to wear my outfits. Having felt what an amazing relief it is not have to “reinvent the wheel” every morning, I have gradually taking it one step by further, making it even more time (and energy) saving, by putting aside two hours every Sunday, to plan, iron and pick out my clothes for the following week. Having limited my ‘possibilities’ and avoiding clutter in my closet, getting dressed and ready in the morning has become less of Darth Vader experience
Last personal advice is always to ORGANIZE the wardrobe. I colorcoordinate all my clothes and my shoes are left in shoeboxes with polaroidpictures outside each box, so that I know exactly what I have and makes dressing alot easier. Every other week iron all my scarfs so they are ready to put on. In doing this I save alot of time and leaves me focusing on other, more important things.
What I’ve said isn’t groundbreaking, (which is why I will leave blogging to someone else), but just a few pointers that have really helped me find a style that I personally like and feel good about.