And please remember that anything I write also applies to me. We are all striving to better ourselves and Inshallah we can build and strengthen our Iman. Amin.
Tuesday, November 22, 2011
What does hijab mean to you? Does it mean to dress modestly? Does it mean to cover your hair? What about your hands and face too? There are many different interpretations of what hijab entails. For example some people I know believe that colourful hijabs are a big No-No whereas other people may think that this is not an issue at all. This topic is so hot that it is constantly being discussed and dissected to bits but there is one aspect of hijab that is always overlooked and rarely discussed, that is how a hijabi should behave. People are so worried about what she wore or what so and so said or what degree I have and how much money I make that they are forgetting their aklah. Rudeness is so common these days that it is rampant even amongst Muslim organisations. Salams ignored? Check. Insulting and putting each other down? Check. Laughing at anothers misfortune? Check. It's so easy to point fingers at one another and forget ourselves in nasty dialogue that it soon becomes OK to give Islamic advice in a demeaning manner. What ever happened to catching more bees with honey? Instead holy Hadith's are now barked into our faces without so much as a Salam for a greeting. I know of so many non-hijabi sisters who are the perfect model of modesty and have the kindest manners and then I know hijabi's who are so rude, arrogant and crude that they would turn anyone interested in Islam right off. Yes we should all try to help each other onto the right path but there is a time, a place and a manner in which things should be said. Don't embarrass your fellow sister amongst her peers, instead pull her aside and try to relate with her. Don't gossip behind her back about how much haram she is doing, instead try to guide her as a concerned friend. So my dears, hijab is not just something to cover our bodies with and the rest is good as gold. Hijab is also the way we interact, the way we smile at one another, the way we encourage each other, the way we praise the good and forget the bad, the way we perceive and want to be perceived and finally it is also about the way we behave and talk. To me these things are even more important then wearing hijab One cannot be covered from head to toe and also have a mouth a fisherman would be proud of. No, we must also love each other and respect one another without any ulterior motives. We must try to help each other in a way that endears us and makes us want to better ourselves. Always remember that nobody is perfect and people make mistakes, this is what makes us human and what makes us who we are and despite the fact that you may look the part, if your heart is filled with jealousy, anger and pride then mate, that does not make you a hijabi.